Holidays are tricky things. They’re mostly political. They’re either designed to aggrandize the top 1% or to placate an under-recognized subset of society. Lots of holidays began as religious celebrations (for the record, those fall under the “aggrandizing the top 1%” category) or were folky fun that was co-opted by a major religion to push their agenda on the celebrants. But, either way, the holidays that have stuck around are the ones that have become what we needed them to be when we needed them to be that. Very few continue to celebrate blacksmiths on Old Clem’s Night because the only blacksmiths left are those blacksmithing hipsters I took a class from once. A holiday has to grow and change with the times in order to continue to be celebrated.
Halloween has stuck around because it’s one of the most flexible holidays every created. In fact, it might just be THE most flexible of all our fun days. It’s mutated so many times over the centuries that today’s version would be unrecognizable to the celebrants of Samhain. It can be pretty much whatever you want it to be these days. While there are still some conventions for how to celebrate it, most of those are highly malleable.
I think flexibility is one of the things that first attracted me to the holiday when I was a kid. Yes, there was the gothy goodness, but there was also freedom. You see, Halloween used to be a holiday that kids never spent with their parents. Parents could ruin most things, even Christmas, but they hardly ever wanted anything to do with Halloween. When I was growing up, it was sort of an underground holiday for kids. The banks were open and the mail still got delivered. I went out with zero parental supervision as soon as the street light on the corner popped on, and I spent the evening canvassing the neighborhood with friends until I had as much candy as I could carry.
One year, my brother and I foolishly decided we’d build a haunted house in our home’s unfinished basement. It was a fool’s errand because there wasn’t enough room and our path was going to force visitors to crouch to get under furnace ducts, but we went so far as to dig a shallow grave that I bet is still under that house to this day. Doesn’t that sound like FUN?
When I got older, I started coming up with things I could do to enjoy handing out candy at the front door. I remember one year making a Star Wars scene that was more fun to create than it was to witness. That year, my mom told me that the scene couldn’t encroach on her kitchen as she closed the door and let me have at it. That was the spirit of Halloween to me - freedom to have fun with very little interference from adults.
These days, parents are terrified to allow their children out at night on their own. I get it. The world is as messy as ever. And yet, risk is inherent in anything worth doing. I feel strongly that children should learn that lesson and accept it as an axiom in their lives. I’m not saying kids should risk their lives for Halloween candy, but most children out trick or treating are perfectly safe, especially if they’re part of a group. There have never been any real mass candy poisonings or the other big fears that the news media trots out every October just so they can fill screens with hyperbole.
The big question is what kind of change do we want future Halloweens to embrace. Do we want our children to face their fears or luxuriate within their safe zones? It may seem that I’m resistant to the freedom I just spent some paragraphs celebrating. That’s not really the point I’m trying to make, though. I know the holiday has to change. I’d just prefer it if that change still allowed a taste of freedom for our offspring.
A lot of modern children have never really trick or treated. Instead, some attend those cloying things that involve people dressing up and giving out candy from the trunks of cars in a parking lot. These events are telling children that the only people worthy of your trust are the handful of people who agree with your faith and who you already know. The fact is, a huge percentage of the crimes committed against children were committed by trusted members of the clergy, so you can STFU about churchgoers being safer in any way, shape or form.
The fact is that going trunk to trunk is really no different than going house to house except for the fact that the fear of the parents is now a factor. This is a microcosm of the extremist mess that has fueled the current state of catastrophe in the governance and civility of these United States. It’s all driven by fear. But it isn’t fear of ghosts, ghouls, and goblins. It’s fear of the people we don’t know. The people who we think don’t look like us or think like us.
Isn’t it time we recognized that racial categorization is a lie? Isn’t it time that we recognized all that we share with those we’re on this planet with? Isn’t it time we realized that we all sink or swim together?
In 100 years, will we all be so confined to like-minded groups that Halloween will be about fearing those who are different from our insular group of choice? That saddens and upsets me. Will liberal families have orange and black decorations with the Trump monster on them? While I agree that there isn’t much that would be scarier, that isn’t the point.
The point is that the artificial divides between us are giving us fears that are no longer fun. Halloween should be about facing our fears and learning that there was really nothing to be afraid of all along. It’s a life lesson that can teach children how to become entrepreneurs and leaders in the world. It can also teach them that different isn’t scary at all.
Which future Halloween do you want for your kids?